Monday, August 13, 2012

Day 15

Just got back from a one-day visit to California.

I wish I hadn't gone.
  • I just miss my friends more now.  Being with them reminded me of how easy it is around people you like and who like you, and it hurts to think that I may not be able to see them for a long time.
  • My dad may not let me visit again because of how disappointed he is in my behavior this time around.
  • I don't know why I do things that I know will hurt me in the future.
  • The last 30 minutes of the car ride back, my dad and his girlfriend were arguing about nothing and getting really upset.  I don't think anybody likes to witness fights, and I'm not an exception.  I remember watching my parents grow to hate each other as a child, and listening to the same man have the same arguments with a different woman made me feel small and weak-limbed and tired.
  • And most importantly, I didn't think it was possible, but I made things even worse with my mom.  I'm stupid and inconsiderate and selfish.  I texted her "I'm sorry for hurting you.  I'm safely back in Las Vegas" as soon as I got back, but she hasn't responded yet.

On that last bulletpoint, I typed "as soon as I got back home" without even thinking.  This isn't home, though.  I've been telling myself to take it a day at a time and keep my mind off of everything that's wrong with this environment and this house, but I don't know if I should.  I don't want to get comfortable here.

At the same time, my mom made it clear that unless I change drastically, I don't have a home in Fullerton, either.  And the cynic in me is having a hard time seeing drastic change happening any time soon (or even at all).  I don't know what's happening.  I feel untethered -- not for the first time in my life, but for the first time in two years.

Things I am unsure of:
  • Where home is
  • What will happen to my relationships with my parents
  • My life more than a month in the future
  • The sanctity of my life
  • Why I am responsible for how people would feel if I should die
  • My standing as a "good" or even "well-intentioned" person
  • Whether I am going back to school
  • What I want to do as a career
  • My "goals"
  • How I feel about anything
Things about me which sound more like a bad 80's lyric than anything:
  • I don't know where home is
  • I am the one responsible for where I am now
  • I don't know what I want
  • I don't know what I need
  • I don't know who I am
  • I can't see more than a month in the future
  • I don't know what's good for me (this one's an actual 80's lyric, and a good one)
  • I am unsure of everything but my own imperfection
  • I am afraid of myself
  • I am still a child

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